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introvertnost je zo strachu, a nie ako som si myslel za cias svojej introvercie, ze to ja proste preferujem samotu - preferovat samotu je jedna vec (kazdy obcas potrebuje), ale neprejavovat sa medzi ludmi a potlacat potrebu prejavit sa, je druha vec, a je to blok, vobec to nie je prirodzene..
prirodzene je to, co robi clovek bez zabran, vtedy sa prejavuje skutocna podstata cloveka.. tj, napriklad pri alkohole, vtedy clovek robi to co chce - ano, vela ludi tuzi po riadnych picovinach :)

Can you change from introvert to extrovert?
It's much more simple guys.
Introverted = The fear of critiscism is stronger than the need for human contact.
Extrovert = The need for human contact is stronger than the fear of criticism.

Wether you are one or other at the moment depends on your fear of criticism. How do you change it? You start acting extrovertedly, and you deal with the fear of criticism until you see that there really isn't anything to be afraid of and boom, you're extroverted.

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Stop obsessing over every little thing that you might feel like saying — essentially pre-editing yourself out of many good conversations before they can even begin!
I used to do this all the time: pre-judging and PRE-REJECTING everything that I was about to say before the words ever made it out of me. You feel like others are constantly judging your thoughts and ideas every second of the day, and this kind of intense scrutiny — imaginary or not — is difficult to hold up under. It’s little wonder that you are reluctant to speak up! I think this is why introverts find people to be more a source of stress to them rather than of comfort. It’s also one of the major reasons why being social may feel like such a chore for you, when it can often seem like such a breeze to most everyone else.

The sad part is that the entire underlying dynamic causing this pre-rejecting response (i.e., the intense scrutiny of others) doesn’t even exist in actuality. It’s entirely in your mind for the most part, and you are merely projecting all this garbage onto others and seeing what really isn’t there. This is a form of paranoia, but it’s also a form of arrogance as well. Arrogance? That’s right: after all, what makes YOU so special that everyone is always watching YOU and everything that you are doing all the time? Why do YOU deserve such constant observation? Well you don’t, and you aren’t getting any! This is all what’s known as ‘magical thinking’, and it’s an error in cognition that you need to address and overcome.

http://highstatusmale.com/HSMblog/2010/07/20/what-every-shy-person-should-understand-about-shyness/

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lol, zase cely ja, pekne do ksichtu vsetky moje strachy..

Discover the power of self-compassion to overcome chronic shame and self-hatred. Shy people are often so mentally tough on themselves that it’s no wonder they constantly act as though they’ve been cowered into submission. They have been: by an internal cognitive monster called the Tyrannical Conscience.

Ask yourself this: who else do you HATE so badly that you would wish the same kind of monster to enter their brain and torture them as relentlessly as you torture yourself with thoughts of fear, uncertainty and inadequacy? What?… you say that no one else deserves such cruel treatment? Only you? Well now there’s that good ol’ arrogance again… this idea that only YOU can be held to such high, God-like standards of performance to which you repeatedly fail to measure up (and therefore must be made to feel ashamed about). Everyone else (all those lower class beings?…) get a pass I guess. They get compassion, but not you. Shame can create such thinking distortions known as grandiosity — what John Bradshaw in his great book “Healing The Shame That Binds You” calls the Disabled Will.