Toto je velmi zaujimava tema.

"The researchers randomly assigned the children to receive different types of praise. For some of the children, they praised the action: “It was good that you gave some of your marbles to those poor children. Yes, that was a nice and helpful thing to do.” For others, they praised the character behind the action: “I guess you’re the kind of person who likes to help others whenever you can. Yes, you are a very nice and helpful person.”

A couple of weeks later, when faced with more opportunities to give and share, the children were much more generous after their character had been praised than after their actions had been. Praising their character helped them internalize it as part of their identities. The children learned who they were from observing their own actions: I am a helpful person."

A tu sa dostavame k jadru. Ono si sice to dieta internalizuje, ze je dobry clovek, napomocny clovek, sikovny clovek. Potom sa vsak moze stat, ze ked sa mu nedari, z nejakej priciny sa mu nechce pomoct druhym, a neciti sa prave v tom momente ako dobry clovek, tak ma pocit, ze je sklamanim, a ze sa sprava nejakym sposobom zle.
Mozem za seba povedat, ze mna to v zivote velmi ovplyvnilo, ja som bola velmi chvalene dieta, a prave tym sposobom, ze nie moje akcie boli chvalene, ale ja ako osoba. Na jednu stranu to bolo nadherne, dalo mi to navonok skvele sebavedomie, citila som sa vysoko hodnotena.
Na druhu stranu, a to som zistila az po rokoch, ked sa mi nieco nedarilo, tak som mala pocit, ze zlyhavam, a vyustilo to spravidla k tomu, ze som danu cinnost odmietla robit. Strach pred zlyhanim v ociach ostatnych bol pre mna pocas vyrastania uplne definujuci, a dodnes prudko ovplyvnuje moj zivot.

Az dodatocne v dospelosti som si jednotlive tie aspekty spojila s velmi presnymi chvalami a metodami hodnotenia mojich uspechov, ktore som zazivala v detstve a puberte.
A to som inak dost well-adjusted oproti inym osobam, ktore poznam ;] [predsalen, bola to pozitivna chavala], a o tychto svojich shortcomings viem a snazim sa ich kompenzovat.

Zaverom by som chcela povedat, ze napriklad tato forma - Cheating was cut in half when instead of, “Please don’t cheat,” participants were told, “Please don’t be a cheater.” - je napriklad podla mna dobry sposob, a ma to tu jasne benefity.
Pri niektorych typoch chvaly to ale na dieta moze vyvolat neustaly tlak, ked si internalizuje, ze je "nejaky" typ osoby, ale v skutocnosti ma pocity a tuzby, ktore sa s tym typom osoby nezlucuju.

Celkovo to povazujem za dobry clanok, ale treba to brat s rezervou.