hm, citim sa apaticky, v nicom nevnimam zmysel
mam take nutkanie kompenzovat si to grandioznostou - taha ma to rozmyslat co vynimocne by som spravil, co ma urcite vytrhne z tohto biedneho zivota.. ale neviem najst nic comu by som veril, ze mi to pomoze..
tak hladam nejake vysvetlenie grandiozity, ze co mi to vlastne chyba, a toto celkom sedi (iked riesenie tam nevidim):


In essence the narcissistic injury will occur whenever the environment (in particular significant others) needs the individual to be something which he or she is not. The narcissistically injured individual is thus told:
- "Don't be who you are, be who I need you to be. Who you are disappoints me, threatens me, angers me, overstimulates me. Be what I want and I will love you".

The narcissistic injury devastates the individual's emerging self. Unable to be what he or she truly is the narcissistically injured person adapts by splitting his personality into what Kohut terms the nuclear (real) self and the false self. The real self becomes fragmented and repressed, whereas the false self takes over the individual. The narcissist thus learns to reject himself or herself by hiding what has been rejected by others. Subsequently, the narcissist will attempt to compensate for his or her 'deficiencies' by trying to impress others through his or her grandiosity. The narcissist essentially decides that:
- "There is something wrong with me as I am. Therefore, I must be special".