If we take man as he is, we make him worse. But if we take man as he should be, we make him capable of becoming what he can be.
- Goethe

...so if you dont recognize a young man's way to meaning, man's search for meaning, you'll make him worse, you'll make him dull, you'll make him frustrated, you still add and contribute to his frustration. While if you presuppose in this man, in this so called criminal, or deliquent, or drug abuser, there must be a spark of search for meaning. Let's recognize this. Let's presuppose it! And then, you will ellicit it from him, you will make him become what he in principle is capable of becoming.
- Viktor Frankl

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